Alan,
I had a very similar conversation with JZM about a year and half ago who said the same thing, I just think they have a downer on the HDs as it competes directly with their product but at a much lower price.
Personally I thought the 993 felt soft, this was my 2nd one and the first felt the same way. Now I did not come to this conclusion overnight but it was more due to the fact that as I learned to drive the beast I could push it harder and that was when my dissatisfaction started. The fitting of the HDs and H&R springs in place of the M033 setup I had transformed the car, both on the motorway and on A roads. It is firm but not hard although over a bad road surface can be a bit crashy, saying that my wifes car is almost as hard on the same bad surfaces. I also fitted the H&R springs as I felt that for the money it would be better to have fresh springs as well as a proven package, against the OEM M033 springs which may not suit the dampers as well.
Also asked the wife what she thought of the suspension to try and get an unbiased few and she thinks it is alright, fine ............! Not scientific but it gives another perspective. Also last week drove 250 miles non stop on motorway and A roads and got out the other end feeling fine, in actual fact could have kept on going.
Comparing it to other cars, it is slightly firmer than my wifes ZT-T with sports suspension and firmer than a 996 cab I was in recently, but that to me just felt like a saloon car. A good source of info would be Rennlist as the americans have practically adopted this as the must have mod to sort out the US spec 4x4 ride height and floaty ride.
If you want to have a chat on the phone PM me and would be more than happy to discuss further.