There is no need to feel 'told off', usermjg, NO offence was intended, and the shock-absorber is an often overlooked component, and comes into the category of 'Black Art'. It is always incredibly difficult to gainsay someone's comments and let them retain their dignity.
The difference betwen old and new shocks can be quite astounding as you say; when I was a callow youth, I went to the Motorshow, (the N.E.C. hadn't even been thought of) where Armstrong had a rig to demonstrate the difference.
It had a pair of handles, each connected to a different spring/shock set up. On compressing the springs with the handles, you could then witness the differing return rates, new against old, upon releasing the handles.
A shock absorber is, in essence, a piston connected to the outside world by a rod or lever, which has two opposed one-way valves built into it. The piston moves in a sealed cylinder filled with hydraulic fluid on either side of the piston. As the spring is compressed the shocker piston is forced through the fluid, and as a fluid can only be compressed to its maximum density, (to all intents and purposes no compression at all) in order for the piston to move at all the fluid must get to the other side of the piston, which is does via the one way valve. The rate at which the piston moves through the fliud is determined by the cross-sectional area of the bore of the valve, the force applied to the piston rod, and the viscosity of the fluid. Two valves are necessary because of the different requirements of bump and rebound.
The spring stores the energy of the bump, the shocker controls the rate at which it is stored and released.
I have two 931s (924 turbos to the uninitiated) one totally original, and one that has been retrimmed repsrayed rebuilt and generally tarted up. Admittedly it has 16" Boxster S wheels but the tarted version rides like an ironing board with wheels, whereas the 'original'car has much more body roll. I think this is down to more than new versus old shockers as the tarted car has covered twice the mileage and has the stiffer ride.